my quinceañera

Dec. 13th, 2025 04:38 pm
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I put on the big blue dress from Gallery Serpentine that I got for my tenth rebirthday and hit the Wildrose last night. It was a small but merry gathering including Tacoma Girl, A from the Merc, and A's sweetie J, not to be confused with J-the-dancing-fiend whom I usually see at the Merc with A.

The Wildrose is a pretty good place to be a dirty old woman. Ahem.

People bought me drinks and I drank them, but adequate hydration and sleeping past 1100 this morning allowed me to, like, not suffer today. Tacoma Girl took me to Lost Lake, which is still a fantastic place to get fish & chips & relative sobriety. Luckily, we were in & out well before the rush that happens when the bars stop serving, i.e. 0100.

Not Sewing

Dec. 12th, 2025 09:47 pm
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Not much needlework around here this week. There have been two band concerts and a church orchestra rehearsal as well as cookie baking, Christmas card writing, and starting to rearrange a piece for the church orchestra because we don’t have the right assortment of instruments for the arrangement we have. There will be another band concert next week and a Christmas celebration with one side of the family, but I’m hoping I can do some sewing. Up next is an 1895 split petticoat to go under the 1901 split skirt I made at the end of last year. At least, that’s the current plan.

the official rebirthday

Dec. 11th, 2025 05:55 pm
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As of yesterday, I've been living for fifteen years as a woman. In other words, yesterday was my fifteenth rebirthday. I didn't go out yet, but my son took me out for tacos and a beer around the corner. Happy rebirthday to me. It's a little trippy to think that what turned into my grand coming out was a whopping fifteen years ago. Time flies like an arrow; fruit flies like a banana.

My actual quinceañera, as I'm calling it, will be tomorrow evening at the Wildrose. There will be the big blue dress from Gallery Serpentine. Tacoma Girl and Ms. Washington State Leather said they'd come. I hope for an interesting evening. (Sadly, Funny Lady is out of town.)

One day more~~~

Dec. 11th, 2025 07:51 am
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Payday tomorrow. I am very excited to be able to get groceries or take-out whenever I like and not be worrying about a payment I might have missed. It's coming up on the first anniversary of this debt insolvency and while I'm in a better position overall*, I still gotta figure out this "don't end the month with not enough $$ for cheese". (I already bought cheese, don't worry.)

*I did purchase that flight to NYC, and I also have $100 in cash for that trip set aside that I could have used to at least stay fed. There is no way I could have managed that pre-insolvency.

As recently as this weekend, I had anxiety surrounding the trip. Every time I thought of it, I would feel the knot bloom in my chest. I want to pay attention that knot, because I have had more than one trip in the past where I had a similar feeling, ignored it, and suffered the consequences. I talked about it with my therapist, and she asked some probing questions like, is it just because of travelling (yes, that is a given, I get anxious surrounding road trips to the next city), is it something else, what? I didn't have answers then, and I don't have answers now. But starting this week, it hasn't been so large or so urgent. I'm still keeping an eye on it.

Yesterday was a "nap, snack, and sleep" kinda night. We'll see what happens tonight.

Ready!

Dec. 10th, 2025 12:03 pm
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I've finished my pre-surgery to-do list. On to the packing list!

I put the funk in executive function. Fear me.

Edited to add: I just finished the packing list.

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Dec. 9th, 2025 08:27 am
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Yesterday's lunch meeting's lunch was delicious, a burrito bar! I piled my plate high lol. Afternoon got rocky as my boss started yelling at us for doing our jobs? I'm still not sure what the thought process was on that. So when I got home finally I opened up the laptop and started browsing Indeed.

Dinner was mac and cheese. I'd made the (gluten-free) mac on Saturday so it disintegrated a little in the reheating, but was still texturally acceptable and delicious. Did a pan of dishes and am starting to reclaim my counters again (depression is a bitch!). I'd been so cold in my apartment and the heaters in the back half of the apartment seemed to be not working and were cold, so I put in a request and someone came while I was away. Apparently I had all the dampers closed and at least the bedroom window was open the tiniest bit, so... no wonder it was cold! It's still COOL, but is no longer cold. I can deal with cool, I have many warm layers to utilize, but there's only so many things one can do until it becomes untenable.

Four rows of knitting done and a handful of words written last night. Tonight I must make something that I can bring for tomorrow too, and then my local group is having a writing night so I will try to work on something.

the surgery to-do list

Dec. 9th, 2025 06:47 am
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Dr. Funnyname? Scheduled.
Dental cleaning? Scheduled. Gosh, their office staff is busy.
Bill? Paid. Yeah, that's the largest wire transfer I've ever sent, and the biggest one I ever hope to send. I figured that waiting a month would get me lest than ten bucks in interest, and it's worth it to me not to have to think about it.

To do:
  • Lodging. Got recommendations from the Sculptor's office.
  • Ground transpo for the day of surgery. This is through the Sculptor's office.
  • Plane tickets, in coordination with Dancer. I offered to pay hers, but she... did not accept.
My name is Logistica, Queen of Details. Look upon my works, ye mighty! Or something.

2025 What did I make

Dec. 8th, 2025 09:18 am
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  1. Brown sateen Scout dress
  2. Teal blouse with long sleeves that are too short
  3. Many mock ups with no corresponding finished projects
  4. Turquoise Rita blouse
  5. Mariner dress
  6. Plaid Scout dress
  7. Green Anni dress
  8. Navy Ingrid skirt
  9. Brown houndstooth Millicent skirt
  10. Blue Honor Roll blouse
  11. Started a swatchbook
  12. Striped skirt (unfinished)
  13. Chambray Boardwalk dress
  14. Ginger sailor pants
  15. Society dress
  16. Banyan
  17. Pet-en-l'air (unfinished)
  18. Charlotte mantle (technically finished)
  19. Polka dotted Marlene blouse
  20. Hemmed curtains
  21. Pink silk half-slip


More than I thought, TBH! I literally have not sewn anything since the end of September for whatever reason. Partly due to the plethora of fruits and veggies currently living on the table. Time to get those cleared out and back to work!

woe, woe is me

Dec. 8th, 2025 08:00 am
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I am this weeks tummy ache survivor champion!! Either my all-soup diet got to me, or something in the soups did, or... who even knows, but my tumtum was very unhappy. Let's just say there was a lot of liquids. I vowed to have more solid food over the weekend, but even that was tricksy because my tum got upset after my nap on Saturday and stayed unreliable through Sunday.

Boss and Loud upset me on Friday, this time with rants about charitable donations and how people utilizing the food bank shouldn't have pets. Thursday it rained and Friday it snowed, so I went to the market for coffee cream as it was easiest to get to and didn't involve icy roads. Also picked up cheese (non-negotiable staple in my house) and sour cream for a planned dinner. We won't talk about what I had for dinner that night, it was entirely inadequate as a meal and entirely within the things I do when I feel really out of control and trapped.

Saturday I made oatmeal for breakfast and then headed out to pick up the sewing machine light bulbs I won at an online auction. They are only open until 5 during the week so I must go on Saturdays, and last Saturday they were closed because they were moving to their new location. Also it was good just to get the car moving, and the roads weren't too bad. Lunch was mac with butter, cracked pepper and parm. Had a nap and then woke up to feeling utterly horrid and I don't even remember what I had planned for dinner but it was not happening.

Sunday I made waffles for brunch but could barely get through the two I ate. Dinner was meant to be chicken fajitas with all sorts of sides but I kept forgetting to take chicken out, so I just cooked up onions and peppers in the seasoning, along with coleslaw and avocado. I did a pan of dishes, and then started feeling really woozy so I went to sit in the hallway (where it was cooler) for a minute. Snack later was another half a waffle.

In terms of "what did I accomplish", I finished Clue 3 of my mystery knit-along shawl, which was meant to be done on November 30 lol. Had to recover some of it, including dropped stitches, when I didn't seal the bag well enough and Calcifer got into it. It is now on longer needles and tucked out of her reach. Located the bands I'd bought for the sewing machines with pot motors and set that up, plus ran some test stitches (still gorgeous). Finished the main focus of my crossword book that I'd purchased on my way to Michigan last year, so that can go into recycling now. Watched a couple hours of YouTube videos that I was very behind on.

Got my latest subscription stickers and they are so pretty. I'm still super torn on starting the final pages of my journal or waiting for another one for the full year. On the other hand, starting a new journal for February means starting it with the Lunar New Year. Why am I like this lol (it is the neuro spicy).

Last night I was up late because of course I was, and just as I was felling asleep there was a noise that woke me up, so it was another hour before I could nod off. Then I somehow turned my alarm off. Thankfully still woke up before I needed to be out the door, so I got that going for me. On my way out, I grabbed my leftover fajitas for lunch, entirely forgetting that I have a lunch meeting today with lunch provided! Sweet, I'd also been wondering what to make for dinner so that I could have leftovers tomorrow, but now I can have fajitas then! Woo!

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Dec. 7th, 2025 01:48 pm
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WHERE THE HELL IS MY ROLL OF 3” WIDE BLACK ELASTIC?!?!! I’ve searched all the usual places, but no luck. The next time I go upstairs I will ask Clovis Devilbunny for help finding it, which means I’ll find it, but it’ll be someplace weird. 

—-

I’ve been looking for a full-skirted black wool coat, because mine is about 5” too small. The coats I’ve found are either not in my size, not the style I want, or synthetic wool. I’m boggled that I can’t find what I want, because they were plentiful in thrift stores just a few years ago. And I’m not even looking for one with a fur collar, because I have multiple vintage real fur collars that I can wear with a coat. 

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First a preface. I've written here several times about going up Aurora Ave., AKA State Road 99. It's a thirty-mile strip of car culture hell that extends from not quite downtown Seattle north into Snohomish County. It's basically a long, narrow blight zone that'll make anyone with any esthetic sensibility at all want to stick forks in their eyes.

But what if the stores were bigger and the place looked less seedy, as I've heard Aurora did fifty or sixty years ago? What you would have then is Federal Way, WA, about eight miles south of SEA airport, which is in turn well south of Seattle.

Sure, it isn't as soul-crushing as Aurora, but why even go there*? Because as of yesterday it's the end of the line for Sound Transit light rail's 1 line! That's right, three bucks and an hour get you from Seattle's U District all the way to Federal Way.

Assuming, of course, that some fool driving on Rainier Ave., the longer of the two at-grade sections of the 1-line, doesn't get in a wreck. I spent half an hour at Sodo looking around at my fellow passengers, texting the Tickler to let them know I'd be late for dinner, and wondering what was going on later at the Monkey Loft a few blocks away. Those at-grade sections, by the way, are the reason we can't automate our light rail as Vancouver did theirs. If I were Imperatrix Mundi they'd be elevated or, better, in cut-and-cover tunnels, and the NIMBYs would get mulched.

But! Onward and southward eventually to three new stations: Kent/Des Moines**, which is one block from Highline College. College kids are transit users, so the location of that station is absolutely correct. The next station is Star Lake; I hadn't known Star Lake existed until I read about the new stations. I guess they had to put a station somewhere.

And then Federal Way, where they put the station on the eastern edge of an agglomeration of big box stores and strip malls. The urbanist in me wishes they'd put it in the middle, but Sound Transit built a parking garage for the station. I can think of two reasons for this: we can expect Federal Way to be the end of the line for a long time, and it's so damn sprawly out there that suburbanites are justified in clinging to their cars for the last few miles. The sensible place for a parking garage is in a less crowded spot right next to I-5, right where it is.

Indeed, even before this latest extension, much of the 1 line's route at the northern and southern ends hugged I-5. It was probably the easiest place to get the rights of way; I know that's why there's no light rail on Aurora.

Is there new housing in Federal Way within walking distance of the station? Yup. Sanity comes to the suburbs, bit by bit.

How long did it take the Tickler to drive from their place in Tacoma to pick me up? Twenty-two minutes, baby. The drive from their place to mine is nearly ninety minutes in early evening traffic.

But! What's actually in Federal Way? Strip malls! Including one about fifteen blocks from the train station where nearly every business is Korean, including about half a dozen restaurants. The Tickler had done their homework and selected one for us named Moobongri. Not fancy, and not barbecue***, with Korean balads on the TV, but all about the tasty noodle soups. I wasn't brave enough to order the pork blood sausage, but the Tickler was. It's a bit chewy, so they ended up eating extra banchan. Would nom again, or would nom again at any of the gazillion neighboring restaurants. Ironically, parking is a bit tight there, so carpool.

But that was the early evening. What about the rest of the evening? I ended up taking the train to the bus to Ballard, where I shook my booty to a lady DJ named Leira and Riz Rollins. Lovely choonz but I went home at midnight because I'd woken up early and my third cup of caffeine was wearing off.

Fun fact: this has been a booze-free weekend by accident. I admit to feeling a lot perkier than I usually do on Sunday morning.



*Ms. Zappy's office was there. That's the only reason I'm familiar with the place.
**I had a friend who lived in Des Moines long ago. Pity she isn't still in this area.
***Korean barbecue really calls for a party of at least four. It's big food.

Finished Project

Dec. 7th, 2025 07:33 am
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I finished the "Italian Renaissance Embroiderer" yesterday afternoon.

“Italian Renaissance Embroiderer”

I'm not sure what I'm going to do with her, but she's pretty.

recovery restriction

Dec. 6th, 2025 12:23 pm
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Says the Sculptor's office, no bike helmet for three months after surgery because it would put pressure on my forehead. Therefore, no bike. More than the liquid diet, the sleeping on my back, and the pain, this is what bums me out. You all know about my relationship with Miss Indigo Bike, right?

They'll give me a special headband so I can wear my glasses. I'm OK with that. Temporarily looking funky is something I don't mind much.

Oh by the way, they answered my mail about recovery on a Saturday. It so wasn't urgent. They're hardcore.

yin and yang, early December edition

Dec. 6th, 2025 07:13 am
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Bad: waking up at 0400...
Good: ...after having fallen asleep around 2030.

Bad: not mustering the energy to go out last night...
Good: ...while it's so windy out that power outages were likely.

Bad: having a long to-do list...
Good: ...that I'm being organized and proactive about and has FFS at the end of it.

Oh, and I have plans for later today for which there is no down side. Consider that a teaser.

1840's Petticoat

Dec. 5th, 2025 09:28 pm
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I finished the organdy petticoat I was making. It's completely plain. The other one has tucks, but I decided I wanted a plain one too. Now the rest of the organdy is available for anything I want to use it for; I don't have to reserve any for the petticoat. Not that I have plans for it right now, but it's another project off my list that has been there for awhile (since 2019).

1840’s organdy petticoat

It was made as a copy of the first one I made, excepting the tucks, and that one was made following the instructions from Elizabeth Stewart Clark's The Dressmaker's Guide: 1840-1865. I call them 1840's petticoats, but I think they're really appropriate from the 1830's through the mid-1850's.

The Sculptor hands me a to-do list.

Dec. 4th, 2025 06:57 pm
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I got email this afternoon from the Sculptor's office detailing what all I need to get done before surgery, and when. They told me about it during my office visit, but it remains impressive:
  • A physical exam & EKG from my primary care doc less than 30 days prior to surgery.
  • A dental cleaning less than 30 days prior to surgery. Irony: my next cleaning is scheduled during my recovery in San Francisco anyway.
  • Some lab tests, to be done March 30th, 2026. Yes, they gave me the exact date.
  • Ground transportation. The cost is included in what I'm paying the Sculptor, but I still have to arrange it. And it's for me alone; no one gets to come with me.
  • Speaking of cost, I owe them the balance by Jan. 28th. I think I'll let that sit in my account to accrue some interest for a few weeks.
They sent me request forms for the labs and ground transpo, plus a letter for my PCP and wire transfer instructions. It's all very organized.

This is significantly more than I had to do before either the previous work on my face or my sex reassignment surgery. Mind you, I'm fifteen years older than I was for SRS, but still. I get the distinct impression that the Sculptor is leaving less to chance than most. Maybe there's at least one interesting if not terrifying story as to why.

It occurs to me that this sort of thing isn't for anyone with poor executive function.

It also occurs to me that if I can't get cardiac or other clearance, you'll be able to hear the wail from Tacoma. Yes, I'll get my money back, but.

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Dec. 4th, 2025 07:48 am
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In the spirit of "I'm just a baby!" it took me 3 evenings to complete my list. Fridge clean up involved moving some of the definitely not great anymore foods to the freezer. Made foods, and yesterday I washed a pot of dishes. A literal pot, I needed it for soup, but the water was warm enough that I got three (3) mugs washed and poured the water into the previous night's rice pot and washed that too. Eyyyyy.

Tonight I need to make one more night of food before it's weekend time and I get really lackadaisical about eating in general. I have to get a couple of groceries (namely coffee cream) before the weekend so I'll see about picking up some snacks too.

Yesterday I spent awhile looking at various methods and ideas for journaling. My January stickers are due to arrive today. I have space for one more month in my current book, and then only a partial month after that. I am torn between wanting to start a whole new year in a new book, or just keep going and start a new book with February. I definitely do NOT want a partial month so I will need a new book before oh, mid-January. I found some really fun options through these videos (spoopy Moonshade collection by Archer & Olive; CATS and other fun designs by Tiefossi; reading journals by the Quirky Cup Collective; Notebook Therapy's understated designs; so many more!!) before remembering that Michaels exists and has inexpensive journals. (I'd really like a nice one though.) I'm buzzing with motivation to make a fun journal that works for me in the new year.

One video talked about cyclical planning with quarters rather than month by month, and I think I'd like to try it at least once. Especially here in December, when we're all thinking about reflections and the like, I cannot remember the beginning of the year that well. Three months is a good amount of time for me to hold onto. This is partly why I'm not sure if I want to break up part of this cycle/year across two notebooks, I could do a lot of planning and prepping and January in the current one, but then I'd be referencing it all the time with a new book in February. I'm inclined to wait. (Can't do nuffin' til next week, I have enough money left for some groceries and that's it!)

I do think the cute cat gridded notebook I picked up a couple months ago could be dedicated as a reading journal. It's not so many pages and thus contains less failure lol. And the cats are cute.

Decreases!

Dec. 4th, 2025 05:21 am
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I finally got to the decreases on my stocking! Maybe I'll be more enthused about it now. I don't need to be excited about it, but I would like to be a little more interested than I have been.

Nun submits to SEAF!

Dec. 3rd, 2025 04:56 pm
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No, that's not dirty.

I submitted (an image of) "Dysphoria Devil" to the Seattle Erotic Art Festival. Well, to the exhibition store anyway; I chickened out of submitting to the actual exhibition. I have two prints ready to go. If both sell, I'll get a whopping $36. If not, I have to pick them up, which is going to be a problem because...

...I belatedly realized that SEAF happens less than a week after I'm supposed to have surgery on my face. It is to laugh. I may be designating someone to pick them up, or better in my opinion, donating them to SEAF. I know the latter is an option because a print that I really wanted last year got donated by an artist and snatched up by a volunteer before I could buy it.

Calling "Dysphoria Devil" erotic is stretching things a bit. It's about what it's like to be trans, and I hope to Goddess that nobody takes it as a fetishization of trans women, because that isn't how I meant it. But what it really means is out of my hands once other people see it.

Week 3

Dec. 2nd, 2025 09:09 pm
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As expected, I did a lot of cross-stitching over the Thanksgiving break.

Here's where I ended last week:
“Italian Renaissance Embroiderer” progress - 11/23/25

And here's where I ended this week:
“Italian Renaissance Embroiderer” progress - 11/30/25

I was going to put it away until the next time we're hanging out with family, but it's close enough to done not to want to do that. I want to finish a dress and a petticoat that I have in progress, but I'll probably finish this up as soon as those are done.
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